Dear Blulife: I love your site. I’m a fan for life or as long as I can still afford broadband. Well I’m writing you for two reasons. One, I’m looking for a job bad and considering making some money with my gym body (Still need models???). And two, I’m broke and a victim of corp. downsizing. Yes, this techno yuppie of the 90s has gone through his savings. I’m faced with going home back to Indiana. And guess what, life in Ft. Lauderdale is much different than my hometown. I went to my local coffee shop and got a job their. Let me tell you moving from a cube to a cashier, ain’t much fun. But I’m not a snob and being underemployed doesn’t bother me, but my bills from my former life are piling up. So I’m coming to the BLUE oracle to find some knowledge. A friend of mine told me I should consider posing nude, or doing massage or escorting. I really don’t want to do that. I don’t want to judge, although my friends say I’m judgmental. I just couldn’t have sex with guys I’m not attracted to. Help…

Dear LUV 4 Sale: Hmmm…. another victim of the corporate knife. All BLULIFE staffers are patriotic, capitalistic loving Americans. Now we got that out of the way for the censors, let’s tackle your dilemma. I personally take the notion that escorting isn’t for everyone. If you can’t do it, then don’t. Would you pay for a lawn man or a chiropractor that was scared to touch you or looked at you like you were day old bread or a protein shake that someone peed into?

The answer, should be no. If you can’t just do like Jane Fonda in the movie Klute and lie there and take it, then you need to not do. If you feel you’ve got the body for sin and profits consider doing massage or stripping or of course porno. At least that way you can get a better pick of men. And depending on the company or site, you may be able to pick your partner. Or just do solo work and jack off for those dollars. Also, consider massage. See if you give someone just a massage and they’re ugly, you can do that service happily and send them on their way. If they’re more to your liking, go for it. It sounds crass, but it’s life and it will keep you from a one-way ticket back to the Midwest. Also, ask those clients (handsome or not) if they know of any openings in what you use to do. You may find that the saying, it’s who you know may get you ahead Mr. Lewinsky. Supposedly she has a 6-figure job for Revlon. Not bad for a blowjob. Play safe and talk to some other people in the business and find out the pros and cons. Don’t forget to send us your pics.

Dear B: I love your site and joined it and love the pics too. My post is not a pro sales pitch or love letter. Also, for those doubters, my boyfriend of 6 years hates this site (so there). But my problem involves him. See he is beautiful inside, but over the years the sex is no more and he has gained a lot of weight. Also, I’ve discovered I’m obsessed by muscle men and have spent large amounts of money over the past 4 months on them. I’m at the point where we’re going to do a major purchase of a vacation home and I’ve spent my share. I really don’t know what to do. I’m writing you to see what you got to say on this….HELP!!!

Dear Muscle Fetish: Hmmm….we’re perplexed and definitely feel that this problem needs to be handled by some folks with more degrees than we have. I hate to say it, but I think you’re a sexaholic. Loving muscle is great, but spending your 401 K plan on it is another. We think you should tell your hubbie that you wish to see a couples counselor. That way, there can be a third party there to referee when you drop the ball. Ideally it should be maybe on the 2nd or 3rd session. That way you can work out solutions. We know that we are purveyors of flesh and that this can cause people to have low self-esteem and we all know where that one leads too. This is serious and if you allow this to go unattended you will do some serious harm to your finances and your relationship. We are hardly saying that porno is bad, but like everything else, it should be done or consumed in a responsible manner. We would compare it to drinking and driving. Drinking is fine, but when you get behind the wheel, that is totally wrong. Also consider throwing out phone numbers of escorts and magazines with ads. Maybe even getting rid of your cell phone too wouldn’t hurt. Also, you should go to http://www.onlinesexaddict.com/ . They have great resources. We also recommend this site too: http://www.sca-recovery.org/

One of our favorite sites is: http://www.ncsac.org/ . We don’t know your spritual beliefs, but be wary of any site that puts a lot of emphasis on God. We don’t hate the big man upstairs, we just know these sites are also part of the whole “conversion” of gay men thing and won’t provide a healing place. Good Luck!

Dear Blulife: Hello and I love your site. It is fun and cool and all that stuff. But this is my problem. I’m a 58 year old man that loves straight boys. I don’t do the bars or anything else because they are so superficial. I have and I’m blessed with a lot of money. I’m fine for retirement, etc. I’ve been seducing straight guys. I usually find out if they’re in need (financially) and I offer them an enormous amount of money to do plain jobs. For example, $500.00 dollars to plant a flower bed. They take the job. Once I befriend them, I seduce them with beer or drugs. Then lay my cards on the table and offer them money for sex. Most say yes, but recently I did this and the kid went to the cops. He told them that I tried to rape him. When I told the police this and my side of the story, they laughed and in a homophobic way told the guy (who was 18) that this is life in the big city and don’t be naïve. He’s some crazy Christian kid and he looks like a gay porn star but is such a born again Christian asshole. He even made flyers and gave them to my neighbors. I’m seeking legal action too and would like your advice. Thanks.

Dear Seducer: Hmmm…read the listings in the letter above from Muscle Fetish destroying us. We think you’re way of meeting men is putting you in harm’s way. I know a lot of sites do these straight boy seduction things, but let’s face it. People aren’t that dumb. And without mentioning names, we know guys that are in these productions that have applied to be models for our site and do gay action. So they’re not that straight. Also, we’re not here to judge you in terms of using money to pick up men. Millions of people, straight and gay, use money to seduce. But the way you’re doing it is sort of suspect. We’ll be honest with you. If you didn’t write us such a nice letter, you’re starting to look so much like a serial killer. Your neighbors: You’re going to have to swallow your pride. If this guy is also passing out flyers, bring a case against him for harassment. Also, from a practical point, if money is good, then why not consider finding 4 to 5 guys who are over 18 that want money. Lay it out and make the arrangement and enjoy their company. Many people do these things. That way you can be more up front with your object of affection. Also, don’t give up hope on guys in your own age group or closer. We know it is hard growing old and being in a culture that is so youth obsessed. But try to be strong and make friends that can be supportive. Those friends will send you Xmas cards and water your plants long after your tricks have walked out of your life. Good luck and think about what we said.